Proverbs Chapter 25
Hezekiah’s Collection of Solomon’s Proverbs
A. Wisdom before kings and judges.
Proverbs 25:1
These also are proverbs of Solomon, which the men of Hezekiah king of Judah copied.
This section of Proverbs, extending from chapter 25 through chapter 29, forms a distinct collection known as the “Hezekiah collection.” Though the sayings themselves originated from Solomon, they were compiled some two centuries later during the reign of Hezekiah, a time of great revival and reform in Judah. First Kings 4:32 records that Solomon spoke three thousand proverbs, meaning that even with this additional compilation, not all of his wisdom sayings were included in the biblical record. The fact that these were “copied” by Hezekiah’s men implies a deliberate act of preservation, ensuring that the wisdom of Solomon would continue to instruct future generations. This was not a casual project but one done with reverence and purpose, likely under divine guidance.
Hezekiah’s reign (approximately 715–686 B.C.) was marked by a national return to the worship of the Lord, the restoration of the temple, and the destruction of idolatrous practices (2 Chronicles 29–31). It is fitting that a king so zealous for God’s truth would seek to preserve Solomon’s inspired wisdom. The men who performed this work may have included prophets such as Isaiah or Micah, who ministered during Hezekiah’s time. As Matthew Poole observes, the specific identity of these scribes is not essential; what matters is that their task was done under divine providence.
Proverbs 25:2–5
It is the glory of God to conceal a matter,
But the glory of kings is to search out a matter.
As the heavens for height and the earth for depth,
So the heart of kings is unsearchable.
Take away the dross from silver,
And it will go to the silversmith for jewelry.
Take away the wicked from before the king,
And his throne will be established in righteousness.
This passage unveils profound truths about divine mystery, human inquiry, and righteous governance.
“It is the glory of God to conceal a matter.” There are many things which the Lord, in His sovereign wisdom, has chosen to conceal from human understanding. These mysteries, whether they concern the natural world, the spiritual realm, or His eternal decrees, serve as a testimony to His infinite greatness. As Trapp noted, the mysteries of God—the union of the Trinity, the incarnation of Christ, and the unseen workings of providence—declare His surpassing wisdom. God’s glory is magnified by what we cannot comprehend, for His thoughts are higher than our thoughts (Isaiah 55:8–9).
In contrast, “the glory of kings is to search out a matter.” It is the duty and honor of rulers to diligently seek understanding and exercise discernment. This applies not only to civil governance but also to the pursuit of divine truth. God conceals so that man may seek, that the righteous ruler might search out truth and apply it with justice. Even in scientific discovery, the exploration of what God has hidden reflects a God-given curiosity, though it must always be tempered with humility. Romans 1:19–20 reminds us that creation itself reveals the invisible attributes of God, calling mankind to acknowledge His hand in all things. The true scholar or king glorifies God not by denying His mysteries but by reverently exploring them.
“So the heart of kings is unsearchable.” Just as the heavens reach immeasurable heights and the earth extends unfathomable depths, so too the inner thoughts of rulers often remain beyond human discernment. Their decisions, motives, and judgments may appear hidden or complex, but even these are subject to the scrutiny of God, who “searches the hearts and knows what the mind of the Spirit is” (Romans 8:27). A wise ruler recognizes that his own heart is also subject to divine examination and must therefore rule with humility and reverence.
Finally, Solomon applies this wisdom to practical leadership: “Take away the dross from silver, and it will go to the silversmith for jewelry. Take away the wicked from before the king, and his throne will be established in righteousness.” Just as impurities must be removed from silver before it can become a vessel of beauty, so must a ruler purge his court of wicked and corrupt counselors if his reign is to be righteous. A godly ruler must surround himself with men of integrity, lest wicked influences tarnish his judgment. As Clarke wisely observed, no nation can be blessed when deceitful advisers occupy positions of influence. A righteous throne is built not on manipulation or compromise but on purity of heart and the fear of the Lord.
Proverbs 25:6–7 – Conduct before Kings
Do not exalt yourself in the presence of the king,
And do not stand in the place of the great;
For it is better that he say to you,
“Come up here,”
Than that you should be put lower in the presence of the prince,
Whom your eyes have seen.
This proverb teaches the importance of humility, especially when standing before those in authority. Solomon warns against self-promotion and prideful ambition in the presence of rulers. Just as one should humble himself before God, one must also demonstrate humility before men. It is better to be invited upward in honor than to arrogantly place oneself high and be publicly humbled. This is not only sound social wisdom but also a spiritual principle.
“Do not exalt yourself in the presence of the king.” Pride is a trap that often leads to embarrassment and dishonor. God Himself opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble. James 4:10 declares, “Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and He will lift you up.” The same principle applies in earthly relationships. As Charles Bridges observed, “Loving to be preeminent is the bane of godliness in the church. Let each of us set about the work of throwing down our high tower of conceit.” The truly wise man does not seek prominence; he seeks to serve faithfully and let God or others elevate him in due time.
“For it is better that he say to you, ‘Come up here.’” This reflects the honor that comes to the humble. When a person takes the lower seat, he shows respect, patience, and meekness—qualities that often lead to exaltation. The Lord Jesus used this very imagery when teaching about humility in Luke 14:8–11. He said, “When you are invited by anyone to a wedding feast, do not sit down in the best place, lest one more honorable than you be invited by him; and he who invited you and him come and say to you, ‘Give place to this man,’ and then you begin with shame to take the lowest place. But when you are invited, go and sit down in the lowest place, so that when he who invited you comes he may say to you, ‘Friend, go up higher.’ Then you will have glory in the presence of those who sit at the table with you. For whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted.”
As Trapp commented, “If before an earthly prince men should carry themselves thus modestly and humbly, how much more before the King of heaven! And if among guests at a feast, how much more among the saints and angels in the holy assemblies!” Pride not only ruins relationships but also brings spiritual ruin. God honors the meek and lowly in heart; therefore, wisdom dictates that humility is always the safer and nobler path.
Proverbs 25:8–10 – Wisdom in Avoiding Court
Do not go hastily to court;
For what will you do in the end,
When your neighbor has put you to shame?
Debate your case with your neighbor,
And do not disclose the secret to another;
Lest he who hears it expose your shame,
And your reputation be ruined.
Here Solomon warns against rushing into litigation or public disputes. Courtrooms, both ancient and modern, are filled with pride, anger, and strife—none of which produce righteousness. The wise man avoids unnecessary conflict and seeks peace whenever possible. “Do not go hastily to court.” This counsel mirrors the spirit of the New Testament. The Apostle Paul rebuked the Corinthian believers for suing one another before unbelievers rather than resolving their grievances privately (1 Corinthians 6:1–8). Litigation, while sometimes necessary, often leads to regret, wasted resources, and damaged reputations.
Adam Clarke observed, “After squandering your money away upon lawyers, both they and the judge will at last leave it to be settled by twelve of your fellow citizens! O the folly of going to law! O the blindness of men, and the rapacity of unprincipled lawyers!” The point is simple—court should be the last resort, not the first instinct. Even Jesus warned against it, saying in Luke 12:57–59 that it is better to make peace with your adversary on the way to court than to risk judgment.
“When your neighbor has put you to shame.” Litigation carries the risk of public humiliation. Many enter courtrooms confident they are right, only to leave disgraced. Solomon’s counsel urges self-examination and restraint before escalating conflict. “Debate your case with your neighbor.” Settle matters privately and peaceably. If reconciliation is possible, it should be sought with patience and sincerity. Jesus gave similar instruction in Matthew 18:15, saying, “Moreover if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother.”
The admonition continues: “Do not disclose the secret to another; lest he who hears it expose your shame, and your reputation be ruined.” When one spreads private matters or personal disputes, even in self-defense, it often backfires and damages one’s character. True wisdom practices discretion. As Waltke noted, “One should not smear another’s name to clear his own.” It is better to lose a case than to lose one’s integrity.
Sir John Hawkins, quoted by Adam Clarke, summarized it well: “A man who deliberates about going to law should have, 1. A good cause; 2. A good purse; 3. A good skilful attorney; 4. Good evidence; 5. Good able counsel; 6. A good upright judge; 7. A good intelligent jury; and with all these on his side, if he have not, 8. Good luck, it is odds but he miscarries in his suit.”
In summary, these verses teach humility before authority and prudence in conflict. Pride and haste lead to shame, while patience and humility bring honor. The wise man knows when to speak, when to be silent, when to stand firm, and when to walk away. God exalts the humble and vindicates the righteous in His time.
Proverbs 25:11–12 – The Beauty of a Timely Word
A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold
In settings of silver.
Like an earring of gold and an ornament of fine gold
Is a wise rebuker to an obedient ear.
Solomon describes the incomparable beauty and value of well-chosen words. “A word fitly spoken” refers to speech that is both timely and appropriate—spoken with discernment, precision, and grace. Just as golden apples framed by silver would delight the eye, so the right word at the right time brings delight and encouragement to the heart. There is power in words that are measured, wise, and well-timed. They can comfort the sorrowful, encourage the weary, and even correct the wayward without wounding.
The Hebrew phrase literally means “a word spoken upon its wheels,” suggesting words that roll smoothly, naturally, and fittingly. As Trapp noted, “It is an excellent skill to be able to time a word, to set it upon the wheels.” Isaiah 50:4 expresses a similar truth: “The Lord God has given Me the tongue of the learned, that I should know how to speak a word in season to him who is weary.” The wise believer learns not only what to say but also when and how to say it. The right word, rightly timed, becomes a vessel of grace and truth.
The second verse complements the first. “Like an earring of gold and an ornament of fine gold is a wise rebuker to an obedient ear.” Correction is not always pleasant, yet when given in wisdom and received in humility, it becomes precious—like fine jewelry adorning the listener. The beauty lies not only in the rebuke itself but also in the receptive spirit of the hearer. Proverbs 9:8 teaches, “Rebuke a wise man, and he will love you.” Constructive correction is a treasure in the life of a godly person, and it beautifies the soul just as gold ornaments beautify the body. A “wise rebuker” speaks truth with grace, and an “obedient ear” receives truth with meekness. Together they display the beauty of godly communication—truth spoken in love and humility that brings refinement to both parties.
Proverbs 25:13 – The Refreshment of a Faithful Messenger
Like the cold of snow in time of harvest
Is a faithful messenger to those who send him,
For he refreshes the soul of his masters.
Solomon uses a vivid image from agrarian life to illustrate the value of faithfulness. “Like the cold of snow in time of harvest” does not mean literal snowfall, which would ruin crops, but rather the cooling effect of snow brought from the mountains and used to refresh laborers in the heat of harvest. Just as a cool drink restores strength and lifts the spirit, so a trustworthy messenger brings refreshment to those who depend upon him.
Faithfulness in carrying out one’s duty is rare and precious. It demonstrates integrity, reliability, and loyalty to the one who sends the message. In an age when communication often distorts truth for self-gain, the faithful messenger stands out as one who honors his commission and represents his master well. This is a striking parallel to the believer’s calling. God’s servants are His messengers, entrusted with the gospel of salvation. Just as an honest courier refreshes his master’s heart, so a faithful witness pleases God and brings joy to His kingdom.
As Bridges noted, the Apostle Paul frequently rejoiced in the faithfulness of his fellow workers who refreshed his spirit amid trials. He wrote in 1 Corinthians 16:17–18, “I am glad about the coming of Stephanas, Fortunatus, and Achaicus, for what was lacking on your part they supplied. For they refreshed my spirit and yours.” Likewise in Philippians 2:25–30 and 1 Thessalonians 3:1–7, Paul expressed gratitude for those who encouraged and strengthened him through steadfast service.
True refreshment comes not from ease or comfort but from faithfulness in one’s duty. The faithful servant reflects the character of Christ, who perfectly fulfilled the Father’s will. As snow cools the weary reaper, so faithfulness invigorates and restores the hearts of those who depend on it.
Proverbs 25:14 – The Empty Boast of False Generosity
Whoever falsely boasts of giving
Is like clouds and wind without rain.
This proverb condemns the hypocrisy of those who pretend to be generous but offer nothing of real substance. “Whoever falsely boasts of giving” speaks of individuals who desire the reputation of charity without actually practicing it. They seek praise for benevolence they do not perform, deceiving others to appear virtuous. Such behavior mirrors the sin of Ananias and Sapphira in Acts 5:1–11, who pretended to give all their proceeds to God while secretly withholding part for themselves. Their deceit provoked divine judgment, illustrating that God values sincerity over show.
This false boasting reflects a deeper spiritual pride. The hypocrite wants to be seen as righteous rather than to be righteous. As Ross observed, “The lesson, of course, is not to make false promises.” Better to give quietly from the heart than to boast falsely about generosity. Jesus Himself warned against this in Matthew 6:1–4, saying that those who give to be seen by men already have their reward.
The image, “like clouds and wind without rain,” depicts the disappointment of empty appearances. Clouds and wind promise rain that would bring refreshment to the dry ground, but when they pass without producing it, they frustrate expectations. Likewise, one who boasts of gifts never given only disappoints and deceives. Jude used similar imagery for false teachers, calling them “clouds without water, carried about by the winds” (Jude 12). Both are useless and misleading—professing to bless others while offering nothing real. True generosity is measured not by words or reputation, but by faithfulness and sacrifice that reflects the heart of God.
Proverbs 25:15 – The Persuasive Power of Patience
By long forbearance a ruler is persuaded,
And a gentle tongue breaks a bone.
This verse presents two complementary truths: patience can influence power, and gentleness can accomplish what harshness cannot. “By long forbearance a ruler is persuaded” teaches that perseverance and self-control can move even those in authority. When dealing with powerful people—rulers, employers, or leaders—brashness and impatience often fail. But steady persistence, calm endurance, and respectful reasoning can change hearts over time.
History offers examples of this principle. William Wilberforce, through tireless patience and moral conviction, persuaded the British Parliament to abolish slavery after decades of resistance. His “long forbearance” was not weakness, but strength under discipline. Scripture affirms this in Galatians 6:9: “And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart.”
“A gentle tongue breaks a bone” appears paradoxical yet profoundly true. Gentleness—meek, calm, and composed—can pierce the hardest defenses. It does not rely on volume or force but on grace and truth. Harsh words often harden resistance, while soft answers disarm hostility. As Proverbs 15:1 declares, “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” The bone represents strength or stubbornness, and gentleness is shown to be the greater power. Bridges wrote, “It is a fine illustration of the power of gentleness above hardness and irritation.” The believer who controls his tongue and spirit wields a strength stronger than aggression—the quiet power of divine wisdom.
Proverbs 25:16 – Moderation in Enjoying Good Things
Have you found honey?
Eat only as much as you need,
Lest you be filled with it and vomit.
This proverb teaches moderation even in the enjoyment of what is good. “Have you found honey?” represents something sweet, desirable, and good—a blessing of life that brings pleasure. Yet Solomon cautions, “Eat only as much as you need.” Honey, though delightful, can become sickening in excess. The principle extends beyond food to all forms of enjoyment. Even lawful pleasures, when pursued without restraint, lead to harm.
The warning continues, “Lest you be filled with it and vomit.” Overindulgence turns delight into disgust. What once pleased the senses now brings pain and loss. Kidner insightfully noted, “Since Eden, man has wanted the last ounce out of life, as though beyond God’s ‘enough’ lay ecstasy, not nausea.” This captures the human tendency toward excess—a refusal to be content with God’s portion.
Poole expands the metaphor, saying that “honey” represents all worldly delights and temporal pleasures. These are to be used with moderation, not worshiped as ultimate satisfaction. True wisdom recognizes that every good gift must be received with gratitude and restraint. The believer is called to temperance, knowing that even blessings can become curses if they dominate the heart. Paul reminds us in 1 Corinthians 6:12, “All things are lawful for me, but all things are not helpful.” The wise learn when to stop, remembering that the sweetest things of this world are best enjoyed in moderation under the Lord’s guidance.
Proverbs 25:17 – Wisdom in Moderation and Boundaries
Seldom set foot in your neighbor’s house,
Lest he become weary of you and hate you.
This proverb teaches the value of moderation and discretion even in friendship. “Seldom set foot in your neighbor’s house” acknowledges that hospitality and fellowship are good and natural, yet they can be spoiled by excess. Even good relationships require respect for personal space and boundaries. Frequent or uninvited visits can turn affection into irritation, as familiarity without restraint breeds contempt. Wisdom understands the rhythm of social grace: when to visit, when to refrain, and when to allow distance to preserve mutual respect.
The spiritual parallel is also profound. As Bridges noted, “Blessed be God, there is no need of this caution and reserve in our approach to Him.” Earthly friendships may grow weary from intrusion, but our heavenly Friend welcomes us always. The Lord never grows tired of hearing His children’s prayers or bearing their burdens. Hebrews 4:16 reminds believers, “Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need.” Yet with people, tact and sensitivity are necessary. The same wisdom that teaches us to draw near to God teaches us to respect others’ time and privacy.
“Lest he become weary of you and hate you” underscores the danger of over-familiarity. Even sincere friendship can be damaged by a lack of restraint. Waltke observed, “Friendship ripens through discreet sensitivity not to intrude on privacy and to allow space to be a person in his own right.” True friendship gives freedom, not control; it builds affection, not obligation. Trapp captured this principle vividly: “At first thou mayest be Oreach, i.e., welcome as a traveller that stays for a day. At length thou wilt be Toveach, a charge, a burden. And lastly, by long tarrying, thou shalt be Boreach, an outcast, hunted out of the house that thou hast so immodestly haunted.” The wise man thus keeps his visits few and his presence valued. The fool, ever imposing, learns too late that over-staying friendship often drives it away.
Proverbs 25:18–19 – The Damage of False Witness and the Pain of Betrayal
A man who bears false witness against his neighbor
Is like a club, a sword, and a sharp arrow.
Confidence in an unfaithful man in time of trouble
Is like a bad tooth and a foot out of joint.
These two verses are closely linked, forming a warning against treachery in both speech and character. The false witness and the unfaithful friend are alike in their destructiveness.
“A man who bears false witness against his neighbor” describes one who spreads lies, whether under oath or in daily conversation. Scripture repeatedly condemns false witness, placing it among the Ten Commandments (Exodus 20:16). This sin is not small; it is compared to deadly weapons—a club, a sword, and a sharp arrow. Each weapon symbolizes increasing range and intensity of harm: the club for close combat, the sword for mid-range, and the arrow for striking from afar. Waltke explains, “For in close battle he used the war club, for less close but still hand-to-hand fighting the sword, and for long-distance fighting the bow and arrow.” The liar’s tongue thus becomes a weapon that destroys reputations, divides communities, and inflicts lasting wounds.
Poole noted, “The design of the proverb is to show the wickedness of slander, and that a false witness is in some respect as bad as a murderer.” Indeed, false words can kill trust, peace, and even life itself. Jesus warned that idle words will be judged (Matthew 12:36), and James wrote that “the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity” (James 3:6). Trapp added, “The evil tongue is thin, broad, and long, like a sword to let out the life-blood of the poor innocent.” Bridges goes further, saying, “The tongue wounds four people at one stroke—the speaker, the victim, the listener, and the name of God.” The wise therefore guard their speech with the same care a soldier guards his weapon, knowing that misuse brings death rather than defense.
The second image continues the theme: “Confidence in an unfaithful man in time of trouble is like a bad tooth and a foot out of joint.” Just as the false witness destroys others, the unreliable man fails those who trust him. Both inflict pain when needed most. A bad tooth hurts when one tries to bite; a dislocated foot fails when one tries to walk. So is the man who cannot be trusted when trouble comes. His unreliability is revealed not in comfort but in crisis. Trusting him only brings frustration, disappointment, and pain.
This proverb reminds us that character and dependability are marks of righteousness. The believer is called to faithfulness because God Himself is faithful. In contrast, the untrustworthy man mirrors the instability of sin. He wounds rather than heals, hinders rather than helps, and proves useless when strength is required. A wise man therefore guards both his tongue and his testimony, knowing that truth and faithfulness are the foundation of all godly relationships.
Proverbs 25:20 – Insensitivity Toward the Sorrowful
Like one who takes away a garment in cold weather,
And like vinegar on soda,
Is one who sings songs to a heavy heart.
This proverb paints a vivid picture of emotional insensitivity. “Like one who takes away a garment in cold weather” describes an act of cruelty or carelessness that adds discomfort to someone already in distress. When a person is hurting, words or actions that trivialize their pain only deepen their suffering. Removing someone’s garment in the cold deprives them of comfort and protection; likewise, treating a broken heart with lighthearted mockery or forced cheer robs that person of empathy.
The second image, “like vinegar on soda,” intensifies the sense of irritation. When vinegar is poured on soda, it reacts violently, bubbling up in agitation before both substances lose their distinct qualities. This symbolizes how an unfeeling or flippant response stirs up emotional turmoil instead of calming the afflicted. As Martin noted, “To pour acid on this alkali is first of all to make it effervesce, and secondly, to destroy its specific qualities.” In the same way, laughter or song offered without discernment in a moment of sorrow disrupts the spirit and destroys the intended comfort.
The lesson is clear: “Is one who sings songs to a heavy heart.” Even something as beautiful as music can wound when misapplied. There is a time to sing joyful songs, and there is a time to weep (Ecclesiastes 3:4). When someone grieves, sympathy, not levity, is required. As Morgan observed, “The proverb indicates the impropriety of making merry in the presence of sorrow. It is wrong in method and serves to increase distress rather than to soothe it.” True comfort requires discernment, empathy, and timing. Words meant to uplift must first understand the heart they seek to heal. The wise person knows that empathy is more effective than cheerfulness when tending to the afflicted.
Proverbs 25:21–22 – Love Toward One’s Enemy
If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat;
And if he is thirsty, give him water to drink;
For so you will heap coals of fire on his head,
And the Lord will reward you.
Here Solomon captures one of the most radical principles of Scripture—showing kindness to one’s enemies. “If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat; and if he is thirsty, give him water to drink.” This command rises above natural human instinct, which seeks retaliation and self-justification. Instead, it reflects the heart of God, who shows mercy even to those who oppose Him. Jesus later affirmed this principle in Matthew 5:44–47: “But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you.” True righteousness is demonstrated not merely by loving those who love us but by showing grace to those who wrong us.
Paul quoted this very passage in Romans 12:20–21, urging believers to overcome evil with good rather than repay evil for evil. By caring for the needs of our enemies, we mirror the patience and compassion of our Savior. Such actions do not condone wrongdoing but rather demonstrate the moral superiority of love over vengeance.
The phrase “for so you will heap coals of fire on his head” has been interpreted in two ways. Some see it as a metaphor for awakening shame and repentance. Augustine and Jerome both taught that the “coals of fire” represent the burning pangs of conscience a man feels when good is returned for evil—his shame producing contrition. Waltke agrees, explaining that this kindness “melts him into kindness” as coals melt ore in a furnace. Others interpret the expression as a picture of lending live coals to help a neighbor rekindle his fire—an act of generosity and assistance. Either way, the message remains the same: kindness disarms hostility and can transform an enemy into a friend.
Clarke insightfully summarized, “Not to consume, but to melt him into kindness; a metaphor taken from smelting metallic ores.” This imagery suggests that our gracious deeds may soften the hardened heart, producing reconciliation and peace. Trapp adds, “By heaping courtesies upon him, thou shalt win him over to thyself. In doing some good to our enemies, we do most to ourselves.”
Meyer beautifully expands this truth: “Do you think that others have wronged you? Pity them, pray for them, seek them out, show them their fault humbly and meekly; wash their feet; take the mote out of their eye; seek to restore them in a spirit of meekness, remembering that you may be tempted; heap coals of loving-kindness on their heads; bring them if possible into such a broken and tender frame of mind, that they may seek forgiveness at your hand and God’s.”
The final phrase, “and the Lord will reward you,” reminds us that such acts of mercy never go unnoticed by heaven. God Himself becomes the rewarder of those who choose grace over vengeance. His pleasure and blessing rest upon those who imitate His forgiving heart.
Proverbs 25:23 – The Cause and Effect of Slander
The north wind brings forth rain,
And a backbiting tongue an angry countenance.
This proverb presents a clear law of cause and effect. “The north wind brings forth rain” was a familiar natural observation in ancient Israel, where certain winds indicated changing weather. Just as the wind inevitably stirs the clouds and brings rain, a backbiting tongue stirs up anger and discord. The two are inseparably linked.
“A backbiting tongue” refers to one who secretly slanders or spreads malicious gossip. Such speech always brings predictable consequences—division, resentment, and wrath. What begins as whispered criticism soon brings the storm of conflict. The person who speaks ill of others behind their backs should expect the same response when their words are exposed. Proverbs 16:28 affirms, “A perverse man sows strife, and a whisperer separates the best of friends.” The wise therefore guard their words, recognizing that gossip, like a storm, is easy to start but hard to stop.
Solomon’s proverb implies responsibility: if the north wind brings rain, then the backbiter brings anger. No one can claim innocence when their tongue provokes strife. Just as we do not blame the storm for getting wet, so we must not blame others for the reaction our slander produces. The tongue is a powerful instrument—either for peace or for destruction. Proverbs 15:1 reminds us, “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” The believer must therefore choose speech that builds up rather than tears down.
Proverbs 25:24 – The Misery of Strife in the Home
It is better to dwell in a corner of a housetop,
Than in a house shared with a contentious woman.
This vivid proverb returns to a recurring theme in Solomon’s writings: the misery of constant contention within the home. “Better to dwell in the corner of a housetop” describes a small, exposed space where one might live in solitude to escape domestic turmoil. Though such a spot would be uncomfortable—subject to the elements and lacking privacy—it would still be preferable to the suffocating strife caused by a quarrelsome spirit.
Waltke notes a poetic connection between this proverb and the previous one: “Hostile speech from the wife is as unexpected and unwelcome as the rain from the north wind.” Both bring sudden disturbance where peace is desired. The image captures not only the unpleasantness of physical exposure but the emotional exhaustion that results from living with constant tension.
“Than in a house shared with a contentious woman.” A spacious home cannot compensate for relational warfare. The point applies equally to both sexes—whether a contentious wife or a combative husband, the result is the same: a home filled with unrest. Peace is not found in wealth or property but in harmony of spirit. Proverbs 21:9 repeats this same truth for emphasis, showing how deeply Solomon understood the corrosive power of strife in marriage.
Bridges offers an earnest appeal: “Christian woman, do not think these proverbs are unworthy of your attention. Be sure you do not fit the description of this dreadful picture.” The wisdom is timeless: cultivate gentleness, humility, and peace within the home. Proverbs 14:1 reinforces this: “The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands.” A peaceful spirit is of greater value than fine architecture or luxury; it creates a dwelling where God Himself is honored.
Proverbs 25:25 – The Refreshment of Good News
As cold water to a weary soul,
So is good news from a far country.
This proverb speaks of encouragement and renewal. “As cold water to a weary soul” describes the refreshment that comes from relief after fatigue. In ancient times, cold water was rare and precious, especially in the heat of harvest. To a weary traveler or laborer, such water was life-giving. In Hebrew thought, the “soul” often refers to the whole person—body, mind, and spirit—so the image conveys total renewal and satisfaction.
“So is good news from a far country.” Just as cold water revives the body, good news uplifts the heart. In the ancient world, communication was slow and uncertain. To receive a report from a distant land—especially one bringing safety, blessing, or success—was an event of immense joy. The longer the distance, the sweeter the refreshment. As Waltke observes, “In the Biblical world news traveled agonizingly slow and was delivered with great difficulty, so that extending the distance to a far off land heightens the refreshment.”
Spiritually, this proverb finds its highest fulfillment in the gospel of Jesus Christ—the ultimate “good news from a far country.” Heaven, though far beyond this world, has sent word of redemption and life through God’s Son. Isaiah 52:7 celebrates this: “How beautiful upon the mountains are the feet of him who brings good news, who proclaims peace.” The gospel refreshes the weary soul burdened by sin, offering living water that satisfies forever.
Even on a practical level, this proverb reminds believers of the power of encouragement. A kind word, a hopeful message, or a report of God’s goodness can strengthen a heart grown faint from trial. As Proverbs 15:30 says, “The light of the eyes rejoices the heart, and a good report makes the bones healthy.” Whether it comes from a distant land or a nearby friend, good news is one of God’s sweetest gifts to the soul.
Proverbs 25:26 – The Shame of a Righteous Man Who Compromises
A righteous man who falters before the wicked
Is like a murky spring and a polluted well.
This proverb illustrates the tragic consequence when a righteous person compromises his integrity in the presence of the wicked. “A righteous man who falters before the wicked” refers to one who, through fear, weakness, or temptation, yields moral ground and fails to uphold righteousness when it is most needed. The fall of such a man brings not only personal shame but also public scandal, as it discredits the name of God before unbelievers. The world delights in the hypocrisy of the righteous, for it provides fuel for mockery and hardness of heart. Thus, what might seem to be a private stumble becomes a public defeat for truth itself.
Trapp observed, “What a blemish was it for Abraham to fall under the reproof of Abimelech! For Samson to be taken by the Philistines in a whorehouse! For Josiah to be minded of his duty by Pharaoh Necho! For Peter to be drawn by a silly wench to deny his Master!” Each of these examples demonstrates that when the godly falter before the ungodly, the witness of righteousness is tarnished, and the enemies of God rejoice.
Bridges adds, “The gross wickedness of the ungodly passes in silence. But Satan makes the neighborhood ring with the failings of those who profess to be Christians.” The world expects sin from the wicked, but when the righteous stumble, it becomes front-page news. For this reason, the believer must remain vigilant and prayerful, knowing that the enemy seeks every opportunity to destroy credibility and testimony.
“Is like a murky spring and a polluted well.” In ancient times, a clear spring or well was a source of life, refreshment, and health. When such a source became contaminated, it brought disappointment and even death to those who relied upon it. So it is when a godly person falls into compromise. His influence, once refreshing and life-giving, becomes clouded and defiled. Waltke notes, “His despicable compromise disappoints, deprives, and imperils the many who have learned to rely on him for their spiritual life.” Garrett adds that it is like a traveler expecting relief who instead finds only filthy water—a picture of profound disillusionment when righteousness yields to evil. The warning is clear: the fall of one believer can poison the well for many others. The righteous must therefore guard their hearts with all diligence, keeping their testimony pure and their spiritual waters clean.
Proverbs 25:27 – The Danger of Self-Glorification
It is not good to eat much honey;
So to seek one’s own glory is not glory.
Solomon again uses honey as an illustration of moderation. “It is not good to eat much honey” reminds us that even good things become harmful when taken to excess. Honey was a symbol of delight and abundance, but overindulgence in it produces nausea rather than pleasure. The lesson extends beyond food to all of life’s blessings—pleasure, wealth, recognition, and even spiritual privilege must be enjoyed within the bounds of self-control.
“So to seek one’s own glory is not glory.” Just as excessive honey makes one sick, so self-promotion corrupts true honor. Genuine glory comes from God, not from self-exaltation. Proverbs 27:2 reinforces this truth: “Let another man praise you, and not your own mouth; a stranger, and not your own lips.” The man who seeks his own praise ultimately finds disgrace, for pride precedes destruction (Proverbs 16:18).
Morgan insightfully wrote, “Much honey produces nausea. So eventually does self-glorification.” The appetite for praise is insatiable, and the one who feeds on it soon becomes spiritually sick. Jesus taught that those who seek the praise of men have already received their reward (Matthew 6:2). True glory, however, belongs to those who humble themselves before God. Romans 8:18 assures believers that real glory awaits the faithful: “For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.” Therefore, the wise man learns to deflect honor upward, seeking not his own acclaim but the glory of the Lord.
Proverbs 25:28 – The Ruin of an Uncontrolled Spirit
Whoever has no rule over his own spirit
Is like a city broken down, without walls.
This concluding proverb in the chapter offers a sober picture of self-discipline—or the lack thereof. “Whoever has no rule over his own spirit” refers to one who cannot control his emotions, impulses, or appetites. The absence of self-control exposes him to every temptation and attack. Such a person is ruled by anger, lust, fear, or pride instead of ruling over them. The Apostle Paul describes self-control as part of the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22–23). Therefore, to lack this control is to live in defeat, for the ungoverned soul is vulnerable to every assault of the enemy.
“Is like a city broken down, without walls.” In ancient times, a city’s strength lay in its walls. They provided protection, stability, and peace. Without them, the city was defenseless and open to plunder. Similarly, a man who lacks self-control has no protection against sin or folly. His emotions breach his reason, and his appetites destroy his peace. He cannot keep out evil thoughts or harmful influences because the walls of restraint are in ruins.
Bridges comments, “Certainly the noblest conquests are gained or lost over ourselves. The first outbreak of anger resulted in murder. A king’s lack of watchfulness about lust resulted in adultery.” Indeed, history and Scripture alike show that the greatest defeats are internal, not external. The fall of mighty men often begins with a moment of unrestrained desire or unguarded emotion.
Self-control, then, is the wall that guards the soul. It is the discipline that keeps the mind clear, the heart pure, and the spirit stable. It is the strength to say “no” to self and “yes” to God. Without it, life is chaos; with it, life is fortified by divine wisdom.
